COUNSELING SERVICES

Internal Family Systems Based Practice

  • Heaviness and burdened feeling for so long that it feels like it is a part of you

  • Manipulated and lied to by those closest to you and find it hard to trust

  • Low self-worth because of what you were told about yourself in the past by those you loved

  • Desire love and connection, but you push others away because you are angry and reactive

  • Wearing a mask

  • Compartmentalize your feelings

  • Don’t have time to intentionally face your feelings

  • The “strong one”, pushing past the pain

  • Can’t afford to “breakdown”; people depend on me

  • Shame and guilt from your past

  • You may be feeling disconnected

  • People do not understand you & this causes you pain

  • Loop of negative thinking

  • Losing sleep

  • Loss of peace

  • Need clarity about what to do

  • Lost yourself somewhere along the way and can’t find your way back

  • Something is “wrong with me”; why can’t I get it together like everybody else

In this therapy space we are intentional about your healing.  This is your time; you are encouraged to take off your mask.  You don’t have to pretend here; we are all human beings.  We will begin by asking, “what do you feel you need?”.  You will set your intention. This way you will know when your goal is met.  You will learn how to sit with your emotions (without judgment); we work to help you become bigger; big enough to sit with strong emotions, in a mature way.  You will learn to listen to yourself and in turn, gain clarity. 

As you tell your story you may choose to release some old thinking and develop new ideas that serve you. I act as a support and guide to you. You may be going through or have survived the deepest of hurt and feel a great deal of pain but, I hold space for all of you. I will model maturity and compassion. You will learn to sit with your feelings without being overtaken.

All of You

All parts of you are welcome in this space, even the parts you may not particularly like. They have a story to tell.  You will begin to see yourself from a new perspective with clarity and understanding.  We will go back to the past and heal those old wounds.  You will begin to give yourself grace and compassion because the process will help you realize your humanity.  

The results of unburdening yourself are lightness, courage and freedom.  Once my clients begin to tell their story and work with “blocked” places inside of them, they are clear on who they are where they stand.  When you are clear you show up differently. They see others the way they see themselves and can support from a place of compassion and understanding. 

When you have done your own work, you are not easily manipulated; no one can tell you who and what you are not because you have seen your darkest places and memories; you have faced the truth.  You have witnessed yourself from a mature place.  You have sat with the good, the bad and the ugly.  You will have felt the support of another human being (me).  You will have learned to comfort your pain. You will develop a maturity when addressing your own feelings.

This work would not have been easy, and it is not for the faint of heart.  It took courage.  You showed up for yourself.  You were tired and ready to heal.  In the future, you will be able to sit with your difficult feelings and know that “you” are not “your feelings”.  You are not “anger”, a part of you “feels angry”.  You are “you”, a complex human being, with many parts.  Your higher self will be trusted friend that has earned your trust.  You can now hold space for yourself, even if no one else does.  

“Holding space for yourself, even if no one else can.”

— LATECHIA HOGUE